Tis’ the season and that means over the next couple of weeks, you have an excellent chance of being trapped in some conversations that you absolutely do not want to be in.
You will need to know how to talk to the people who make networking, mingling, and schmoozing a Holiday Nightmare.
I offer some expert ideas on how to conquer small talk, enjoy it, navigate tricky talk encounters, and yes, network for wealth building.
Here are 6 different situations that you may find yourself in.
The Quiet Talker
The NO Talker
The Interrupter
The Inappropriate Talker
The Close Talker
The Incessant Tallker
- With The Quiet Talker, you may find yourself nodding, and not really knowing for sure what is being said. You can deal with this type of conversation by asking the person to “speak up.” It would be far more rude to just stand there and presumably have a conversation with someone who is expecting a response from you. Be kind, and let them know that you can not understand them.
- Then you have the NO Talker. Hello? Is anyone there? This person will never be able to hold up his or her end of the conversation. Now, when you are at a social gathering, you really do not need to stand there and TRY to have a meaningful conversation with them, or even try to introduce a way to get their wealth building in gear for the new year! That person will be distracted or they might have just had a bad day and you just don’t need to subject yourself to that type of conversation. You can move on by saying, “It’s been nice talking to you,” and then mingle with the rest of the party goers!
- WOW! The Interrupter! This party pooper wants to be the one in charge. He or she will finish your sentences or even try to one-up everything you say before you even finish your story! OK. If you talk to this person regularly, YOU need to tutor them on how to talk to you! You can say something like, “Hold on just a minute, I would like to finish what I was saying,” and then after you have done that, pause so they will understand they can add to the conversation if they want to. This may or may not work if the person has had this trait forever! Good Luck!
- Then you have The Inappropriate Talker. The MO of this person is to talk about people behind their backs, use racial slurs, or even just to use offensive language and they probably don’t even think it is rude or degrading! What is your level of risk with this person? Do you want to steer them in the direction of networking so that you can offer the opportunity to help them in their wealth building for the future, or just schmooze for the one night? If you are offended, you can always say, “I’m sorry, but this topic really is making me feel uncomfortable.” Be careful not to attack the person by personalizing it. I feel that it is always best to be held in the highest regards, so I think it is better to say something and not just stand there listening. The conversation could be overheard, and even though you may not be contributing, another partygoer could think you are into this conversation and that would not be good for your reputation.
- With the Incessant Talker... good luck on being able to add to the conversation! With this person, you will never get a word in edgewise. There is not much to be said here (ha,ha,ha) except to nod happily until you can break away! You can always use the excuse that you need to find the restroom, and just hope this constant blabber decides NOT to follow you there. At least you will get a few minutes to gather YOUR thoughts before you head back to the gathering! No doubt, this is not the type of person you want to work with in their quest for wealth building!
- And finally, we have The Close Talker. I don’t know about you, but I like my space. When you can smell someone’s breath, and be up close and personal with his or her teeth, that is just too close for comfort. I recommend that you move to adjust how you are standing. Reposition your body so that you stand with your shoulder near the person (in other words, sideways). Distance is what you are looking to create here! While talking, raise your voice a little and this will usually cause the person to back up a short distance. Because, now you are invading their comfort level!
Party season means that you never know when you will encounter someone who is searching for a way to enhance his or her wealth building for the future. Join me next time when I will write about some “smooth talking tips.”
Happy Holidays!
Donna Petrella
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